tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post6585648184191486981..comments2023-11-03T06:24:22.342-07:00Comments on Cog: Is There Another Shoe?Scothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-29128732349891910002008-02-07T15:49:00.000-08:002008-02-07T15:49:00.000-08:00Most of the time I'm too caught up in today to wor...<I>Most of the time I'm too caught up in today to worry about tomorrow.</I><BR/><BR/>I hear ya... But I'll still find time to worry here and there :-).Scothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-73594114250040468522008-02-06T16:44:00.000-08:002008-02-06T16:44:00.000-08:00I wish for your family that you don't experience a...I wish for your family that you don't experience anything more stressfull than that little exchange between friends at the lunch table. That's my wish and my hope, though not my expectation. <BR/>Are you borrowing trouble by worrying about it now? I don't know. In my own struggles with non-traditional adoption issues I knew there would be conflicts and difficulties. But I had no idea what form they would take. My 2 adopted children are 10, in the 4th grade now. There is no way I could have prepared myself for the struggles we have now. I was clueless. And they aren't even in middle school yet. So I know it will continue to be hard and will probably get harder. We're dealing the best we can with today's problems. But aside from working on the current issues, I have no clue how to handle what may happen in the next 5 or 6 years. Most of the time I'm too caught up in today to worry about tomorrow.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-62599017269052208382008-02-04T11:02:00.000-08:002008-02-04T11:02:00.000-08:00Glad to meet you dave. I don’t know how much of a...Glad to meet you dave. I don’t know how much of a role model I can be, but I welcome another reader :-).<BR/><BR/>And when the time comes, feel free to ask us about the hows of becoming a gay parent. It can be complicated, but it’s not the most complicated part of being a parent :-).Scothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-14782543072861466622008-02-03T12:13:00.000-08:002008-02-03T12:13:00.000-08:00I just came across your blog and you seem like a g...I just came across your blog and you seem like a great role model for me. My boyfriend and I of two years are moving in together soon and one day we'd like to raise a family of our own. I'm excited to keep reading your blog!Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16862274589875018300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-42020755010332454652008-01-30T10:51:00.000-08:002008-01-30T10:51:00.000-08:00Abe: They’re in kindergarten. I know, I’m worried...<B>Abe: </B><BR/><BR/>They’re in kindergarten. I know, I’m worried a bit early, but we’ve known for almost 3 years the group of parents and kids in their school. <BR/><BR/>I agree on middle school. For that reason we chose a school that goes continuously from preschool to high school. I’m hoping the fact that most of the kids in their middle school class will never have a memory without our boys as their friends will cut trouble off at the bud. There will be few surprised parents or kids along the way and I hope we’ve enough time to work all the issues out with those we know (But I find myself pleasantly wondering where the issues are? :-)). Anyway, I hope it works.<BR/><BR/><B>Mr. Fob: </B><BR/><BR/>So you’re saying we should fight them over there so they don’t attack us here? <BR/><BR/>Sounds like a good idea.<BR/><BR/><B>Eleanor’s Papa: </B><BR/><BR/>Grandpa… ouch!<BR/><BR/>When we’re out for dinner we’ll sometimes get “Oh, how nice is it of you men to let your wives have the night off.” It doesn’t help that Brian looks like Rob and Alan looks like me; odd coincidence, that. But even after we explain, people have been great. <BR/><BR/>Still, I’m sure the news has spread to near every classmate’s family. There are only so many times a buddy would join you for Parent’s Day at your kid’s school :-).Scothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-84904435648281680062008-01-29T17:29:00.000-08:002008-01-29T17:29:00.000-08:00I've mostly been amazed at how clueless folks are ...I've mostly been amazed at how clueless folks are -- whenever we're feeling self conscious or militant we're reminded that humans are programmed to leap to statistically obvious solutions, and most of the time the second father has been subconsciously processed as "dad's buddy helping out."<BR/><BR/>I'm still waiting for our first ugly confrontation. I'm hoping it feels worse than "Oh, and you must be Eleanor's grandpa" did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-55964414492216879082008-01-29T14:32:00.000-08:002008-01-29T14:32:00.000-08:00I think you should go for a preemptive strike--may...I think you should go for a preemptive strike--maybe toilet paper the other boy's house, or something. That's what I'd do.B.G. Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604354633985676126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33131983.post-50419117200403284952008-01-29T14:26:00.000-08:002008-01-29T14:26:00.000-08:00I think your concerns are valid and it is somethin...I think your concerns are valid and it is something that needs to be continually monitored; however, I think it is wonderful that they are not having to deal with any homophobia yet.<BR/><BR/>What grade are your boys in? If it's going to happen, I suspect junior high (or middle school, whatever it is called in your neck of the woods) is when it will begin to arise. Based on my own experience raising children, it will be worst in junior high and then taper off, but not disappear entirely, through high school.Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.com